It’s been one something else, to put it mildly. The last few years haven’t been kind. The abuse, the gaslighting, it’s been horrible. But now things are set to change.
Yes, there are going to be calls for unity and understanding. There are going to be Trumpers saying that it isn’t fair for others to celebrate Joe Biden’s win; after all, they’re hurting like we were four years ago. Can’t we show some compassion?
I’ll be blunt: it’s going to depend on a lot of factors.
No, I don’t unfriend people over politics; that’s fairly petty. But if someone truly reveled in the fact that others were hurting, that there were children being separated from their families and put in internment camps, that people would lose their rights, or have their marriages seen as null and void, or any other generally garbage and/or abusive behavior, now isn’t the time to play nice.
You owe them nothing.
This isn’t a difference of opinion. This is someone being toxic and abusive. Toxic people are owed absolutely nothing. Remember that. It might hurt to realize that your Uncle Frank, the one who took you fishing as a kid, is actually virulently racist, but if he is, you might not want to spend your Thanksgiving dinner with him. Abusers depend on their victims staying quiet and not making waves. Don’t rock the boat and it’ll be okay.
But that just gives the abuser power over you. Remember: you owe them nothing.
I’m not saying you should drop all your Republican family members. What I am saying is you may want to take a good, hard look at their behavior and whether or not it’s toxic. If it’s abusive or toxic, then it’s perfectly fine to go low or no contact.
If they’re abusive, if they’re toxic, remember: you owe them nothing. Your mental health and well-being comes first, not family bonds.
We got through these last three years. We’ve made it this far. We don’t have long to go; it’s always darkest before the dawn.
See you on the other side.