A Hell of Her Own Making

This came to my attention via the Friendly Atheist: it’s called Giving Your Child to the Devil and it happened to be posted on the author’s son’s wedding day, which is one hell of a way to commemorate that sort of occasion.

However, the young man in question wasn’t marrying a nice young lady. He happened to be marrying another guy. Here’s where it gets sticky. We’ll be dealing with some pretty nasty stuff here as well, such as abandonment, so if that’s too much for you, stop right now. We’ll get into the heart of this matter right after the jump.

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Try Not to Get Offended

I found this little gem fetid, steaming pile while on Patheos. Try not to get too offended by my position on the matter.

As a society, we are now looking for offense around every corner. Leaders are being forced to resign. Commenters are castigated. Speakers are being silenced.

If a leader says something completely bigoted and racist then yes, s/he should resign. Why? Because if this is an elected leader, then s/he is not representing everyone in his/her constituency. If a speaker says something like, “The Holocaust wasn’t real” then they need to face criticism of their beliefs. If a commenter hops onto a blog and says something that is breaking the commenting guidelines, then the commenter should be duly castigated.

Just because you can speak freely doesn’t mean that ideas deserve equal time.

The forced apologies, resignations and sackingsare [sic] rampant. We are learning to live a very narrow world, in which every action and word is scrutinized.

If by a “narrow world” you mean one where verbal abuse isn’t tolerated then yeah, we are. It sounds to me like Dave is upset that he can’t say certain things anymore, that he’ll get called out on what he’s said and he doesn’t like that.

Here’s the thing, Dave: free speech has consequences*. If you say something horrible, someone will probably take you to task over it. Why? Because they have free speech as well. It isn’t that hard a concept to grasp.

Those who once championed free-speech on every corner are the same ones who are killing it in the public square And it won’t be long before the “offended” will soon find themselves as the “offenders.” It’s the full circle of speech.

Let me first address something with a now infamous little cartoon:

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Okay, now there’s a problem with what Dave has posited about Berkeley; the college didn’t have to provide Hanrahan with a platform. There’s already one on campus. All Hanrahan would have had to do was go to the common area and start yelling. Street preachers do it all the time. No one is prevented from using that as a platform to air whatever garbage they want to say. How do I know? I’ve attended some college classes and we had our share of holy rollers standing in front of the Student Union, screaming at us that we were all hell bound.

Here’s the thing: Hanrahan wouldn’t be able to get any security guards if he did this. He’d be taken to task for his opinions, as the students would start pointing out his logical fallacies. But worst of all? This would be truly free speech; he couldn’t charge any admission to his diatribe. He wouldn’t make any money off of it. When you get right down to it, this is all about the almighty dollar and not the quashing of free speech. That’s it in a nutshell.

So much for the idea of “free speech” in that regard.

Matt Walsh offers these truths”

1) If it wasn’t intended to offend you, then you shouldn’t be offended.

2) You do not get to decide someone else’s intentions. They do.

3) Being offended is a choice you make. Nobody is responsible for that choice but you.

4) Even if the slight was intended and deliberate, functioning adults understand that they must move on and not dwell over every sideways glance or rude comment.

First of all, Matt Walsh isn’t a great source to cite. Seriously.

Or, to put what he’s saying differently, “Why so sensitive?” I’ve heard that one before and it almost always comes out of the mouth of either a bully or an abuser. It’s a very good way to pass the blame on to the victim, rather than having the abuser own up to it. It’s a way to duck responsibility and hurt the victim even more.

And that is the heart of the matter. I speak freely and from experience on that one.


*If anyone knows just how loaded a thing free speech is, it is Hanrahan. Seriously, this guy was given enough free speech rope and he hanged himself with it, all the while kicking the stool out from under himself, grinning the entire time. Captain Cassidy’s take on this is a great read, and I urge you to do so.

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Morning Coffee: Cup Twenty-Seven

morning_coffeeToday’s post is brought to you by: Hills Bros. Original Blend.

It’s time for another Morning Coffee post, where I post odds and ends that catch my attention. Buckle up, ’cause it’s gonna get interesting!

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Sunday Morning Nostalgia Crush!


The intro to Galaxy High. I only caught a few episodes of this.

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Cute Therapy!


It’s been a shitty week, so we’ll turn it into a kitty week. So here are some kittens playing in a tissue box. Enjoy!

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Finally!

I’ve only been waiting for something like this since I was nine years old: Netflix is making a prequel to the Dark Crystal. From the article:

Good news for fans of Gelflings, Skeksis, and Mystics: Netflix has just announced a prequel series for Jim Henson’s cult fantasy classic The Dark Crystal. The Dark Crystal: Age of Resistance returns us to the troubled world of the 1982 animatronic-puppetry film, to a time when the Skeksis and the Mystics were still bitter enemies and the Gelfling race was caught in the middle.

Now, I dimly remember hearing of rumors of a sequel some years ago but that will apparently be a comic book adaption and not a film. So hearing about this is music to my ears.

I’ll go ahead and admit it: at first glance, the original film scared me stupid. I was a kid when it was first released and I wasn’t the only kid freaked out by what I saw. This is very well known Nightmare Fuel. (Warning: TV Tropes page! If you don’t want to waste the next six hours of your life, you may not want to click that link.) It’s more than a little infamous in that regard. What changed? I caught a “making of” special on TV. I was sunned at what I saw; the Geflings looked like dolls, like something that would have been sitting on my bed.

Well, the fear went out the window at that point and I was able to watch the movie. It was awesome, probably the most awesome movie I had seen in my short life. I think if I could have lived on that planet, I would have. It’s easily one of the best but most underrated films that Henson has ever made; if you have a chance, watch it.

Of course, this new series might be the only excuse you need in that regard. I myself can barely wait!

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“I’m only faking when I get it right…”

Chris Cornell of Soundgarden and Audioslave, has died. He was 52.

I really have nothing to add. I’ll let his music speak what I cannot say. But he will be greatly missed.

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